Affirmations for Inner Peace while dealing with Racism:

I am safe.

You are safe.

We are all safe.

I love and approve of myself.

I love and approve of you.

We love and approve of everyone.

My skin color is gorgeous.

Your skin color is gorgeous.

Our skin colors are gorgeous.

My hair is beautiful.

Your hair is beautiful.

Our hair are beautiful.

I am good enough.

You are good enough.

We are all good enough.

I am one with everyone.

We are all one.

Everyone loves me.

I love everyone.

We love each other.

I am defined by my talents and intelligence only.

You are defined by your talents only.

We are defined by our talents only.

We are all the same race of human being.

Things are improving in this world for you, me, and everyone.

I see love in others.

You see love in others.

We see love in each other.

I succeed in everything that I do.

You succeed in everything that you do.

We succeed in everything that we do.

I am supported by ALL people.

You are supported by All people

We are supported by each other.

I support others’ wellbeing, happiness, and success.

You support others’ wellbeing, happiness, and success.

We support others’ wellbeing, happiness, and success.

I am happy and healthy.

I am grateful for being alive and having the opportunity to experience the joy in life. I bring joy to others.

I do not need to compete with others, there is plenty for everyone.

It is my right to be wealthy.

You have a right to be wealthy.

We have a right to be wealthy.

I have friends everywhere.

You have friends everywhere.

We have friends everywhere.

I am free to go wherever I want.

You are free to go wherever I want.

We are free to go wherever we want.

I love my family.

You love your family.

We love our families.

I take care of my children and children of all human race. We are all the same.

I see with clarity and love.

You see with clarity and love.

We see with clarity and love.

All people are equal.

I am same as others.

I am happy with my self.

I do not need to question others or myself.

My identity is of human race only [and not of color].

I look within whenever I need answers.

I contribute to make others’ lives be better.

I am a positive contributor to the world’s peace.

I let go of thoughts that are not helpful/peaceful.

I am at peace with myself.

Valleys and Peaks

Life is filled with ups and downs. Sometimes we have our A game and other times we are just watching it downpour. This is not unusual and does not have any meaning behind it. Things happen in cycles, after dark comes the lights and then again comes the darkness.

In our lives things seem to peak only to fall into valleys. We cannot change this but we can shorten the valleys and lengthen the peaks using the following steps:

  1. First acknowledge that this is a normal cycle. This phase is temporary. Remember this whether you are currently on your peak or in your valley. This will eliminate any need for stress. Everyone goes through it. Did you ever have a perfect relationship or a perfect job? Most probably not. Sometimes our partners can be the best and sometimes they are the worst. This is a fact. Know this and move on.
  2. Lengthen your time on the peaks:  Is everything going as planned? Many good news every day? Getting what you wanted? Life seems amazing and it really is. Don’t take it for granted. Count your blessings, start a gratitude journal. Create habits that are not limited to good times. E.g., you must exercise regularly even if today you feel good, eat healthier even though you just lost a lot of weight and can afford to devour. Share your happiness with someone, volunteer at a shelter, sing a song to your puppy, read books that inspire you, visualize your dreams, donate to a charity, refer someone to a good job. Keep the flow of goodness going.
  3. Shorten your time in the valleys: Does the life seem unfair? Too many bad things happening at the same time? Didn’t happen what you wanted? List is endless. Only way to cut it is to literally cut it. Don’t ignore the current situation but continue to look at it as a normal phase. Remember, this too shall pass. Even if things are not as you want, continue to keep your habits from your peaks. E.g. exercise regularly, mediate often, write in your gratitude journal, thank someone, volunteer when possible, make someone else’s day, read books that inspire you. There is no need to get stressed even if things are not going as you expect them to. You cannot control the outcomes of processes, you can only add in the inputs of your hard work.

Instead of feeling invincible when we are on top and feeling depressed when we are at the bottom, let’s accept this cycle of life without wasting our time. Make your mistakes and pick yourself up. See my article on how to improve yourself without criticism here:

One way to improve life dramatically and quickly

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TL/DR: No criticism whatsoever, not of yourself and not of others

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Life is full of valleys and peaks. There is always something to complain about. It’s not true that successful people don’t complaint. Everyone complaints. Life is not perfect. There are things that could be different and better. But often times, we don’t look at things as something to improve upon, rather we judge them as not good enough.

It is possible to improve things and ourselves without any need of criticism, if we focus on facts and eliminate all the judgments that we bring from our perspective. E.g., I forgot to put salt in my soup. This is a fact. If we add, I am forgetful so I forgot to put the salt, that’s a criticism. Take this to any area of your life. My boyfriend left me because I am not good enough. Let’s distinguish fact from judgment. Your boyfriend left. That’s it. There is no reason to criticize yourself or him.

This is not to downplay the need to improve but rather accelerating this improvement. When we focus on facts, it’s easier to tackle the main problems. As humans, we add our feelings to all aspects especially when something implies that we are not good enough. It hurts us. Unfortunately, it also adds additional layer that needs to be opened up before we can get to the underlying problem.

It may not be easy at first, but if we can focus on practicing in differentiating facts from judgments, we can accelerate our healing. See the below examples that differentiate between critical and non-critical views.

ExampleCritical Point Of View (POV)Fact based POV
My boyfriend left meMy boyfriend left me because I am not good enough, he is not a good person, etc.My boyfriend left me. It hurts. It has nothing to do with me because we are all free to do things we desire. I may have made mistakes based on what I believed in the past. From now on I will try my best make better decisions.
I did not get a promotionI didn’t get a promotion because of office politics. I did more work than others, I deserve it more than others. Life is not fair.I did not get promotion. It’s disappointing. I tried my best but at the end, this is not something that I control. I will continue to improve myself and review various options to make my life better.

As I said, this approach is not easy at the beginning. With practice, we can become better. This will not reduce our mistakes but it will shorten the time it takes to learn from our mistakes and move on.

The World Is Getting Better

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Despite what the new sources constantly tell us, the world is getting better. I recently read the book “Factfulness” by Hans Rosling. The book does not give false hope or makes us feel better by ignoring the rest of the world but by providing the facts about how the world has improved just within a couple of generations. E.g. Over the last 20 years, the proportion of people living in extreme poverty has almost been cut in half; early in the 19th century, 12% of the world could read and write, today it’s 83%. Billionaire Philanthropist, Bill Gates is a huge fan of this book, you can read his take as well as excerpt from the book here.

On personal level, I often find myself stressed over the current condition of world. After reading the Factfulness, I started to think about my own life. I am better than how I was doing just a few years ago. Things have improved in my world. Do you think your life has improved? Maybe you have better friends now? Maybe you learned something to make your life just a tad better than how it was last year?

How many of us are in any war zone now? In reality, we are safer now than we have ever been in the history of civilization. Since the information travels much faster now, we are almost instantly aware of atrocities that happen around the world. We mistakenly think that unfairness is dominating, when in fact, it’s the news about unfairness is that is spreading. News makes us aware of bad things that happen in the world, we must not ignore them but we must also not conclude, ‘the world is getting worse.’ We must do our part in bringing happiness to the world, which means sticking to the facts about the world getting better. No need to bring fear in our as well as minds of others.

There are many things we still need to resolve but we must remember, we got this, we are getting better and we will continue to get better, thanks to the innovations and kind people like you. Let’s be happy today for our safety and let’s do our best to make this world a better place.

Have you said thanks to those who bring happiness to your life every day? Your parents, the coffee shop cashier, the receptionist? Take a moment to thank others now. Need more actions? How about signing a petition for plastic control? Did you know that pollution in Beijing, China has decreased 54% in 2017 from just a year earlier? It can be done, it has been done, and next time things will be even better!

We are only 2 seconds old if the Earth is 1 day old, so let’s keep our hopes and actions up.



Taking things personally

When people talk negative about us or look down at us, it is hard not to take it personally. But what exactly are we taking personally? It is other people’s opinions and feelings. The hurtful feelings are not ours. We are taking on unnecessary burden.

When people are behaving negatively, their behavior says a lot about them and NEVER about you.

Their opinion about you or your behavior comes from their upbringings or thoughts; it has NOTHING to do with you or your behavior.

Therefore, do not take anything personally. They don’t know you the way you know yourself. Perhaps you made mistakes but you are not a mistake. Your mistakes don’t represent you. You are whole regardless of your behavior.

If we hate people who hate us, then we are reflecting on their behavior, not their true self. If we forgive those who hurt us, we are reflecting on their true self. And since we are all one source, forgiveness means being true to ourselves.

It is easier to forgive than you think. We all have said bad things about others, either to hurt them or gain approval from others. If you can forgive yourself, you can forgive those who have done the same thing.

So next time someone says something hurtful, remember to repeat, “It is not about me, it is about them. I forgive.” 🙂


Shake the stress


Stress is one of the major causes of illness in human beings. We must be able to handle stress effectively.

Stress is nothing but thoughts about uncertain future and the belief that there is nothing you can do make it certain. Unfortunately it is wrong to think that we are not in control of our future. Stress is simply our thoughts and non-existent reality. If we think positively then we can create a positive reality.

Every time we have worry about the future we can simply replace those worrisome thoughts to thoughts that make us feel calmer. E.g. “I will never be able to find a job that I love” becomes “my dream job is coming to me”. Then spend your thoughts imagining how does having a great job makes you feel rather than thinking about a crappy job.

I think there is one easy way to release the stress and that is being in the present moment. It is impossible for us to stop thinking. We can guide our thoughts into thinking the way we want our future to be. When we think about the present, we are living and thinking the same thing. We eliminate past and future and thereby free ourselves from stress from both parts.

It is not easy to stay in the present moment but it is easy to come in the present moment. Think of a time when you were in deep thinking but a doorbell or a ringtone brought you in the present moment. At that moment, you only thought of the present (the buzzing sound) but went back to future when you started wondering who it could be.

By practicing coming to present moment whenever you can, you will form a habit of staying in the present moment. My father taught me a great way to stay in the present. E.g. I would walk a whole block while repeating that I am walking. I was concentrated only on the present moment and there was no worry about the future at all.

With practice, you can start staying in the present moment. Start with small tasks as doing dishes or laundry. When you are doing dishes, pay attention to the soap and water and how it is cleaning your dishes. Observe the process with your full concentration instead of doing it mechanically. Working your way from these small tasks to important task is fairly easy. E.g. instead of saying “I am stressed out about my presentation” you will say “I am giving a presentation” there will be no further thinking and hence no stress.

By staying in the present your body will eliminate the stress that can give birth to illnesses such as heart disease, obesity and sleep disorder. Your body will not feel the pressure that it feels thinking about the future. Your brain will not have to race to think too much and you will feel relaxed.

Relaxation brings good thoughts and by Law of Attraction, you will attract good experiences.

Here are some affirmations to stay in the present moment:

This is the only moment that I can live in therefore I enjoy it completely

I am in the present moment

This is the only moment that matters

I am aware of what I am doing at this moment

I observe my surroundings at this moment

I appreciate this moment

I notice what is around me

I focus on what I am doing at this moment

I release the past and accept the future for what it was/will be

This is the only moment that I can control

I am in love with this moment because of the power it has

My stressing our future does not bring any solution therefore I would rather enjoy the present moment

My current positive thinking is bringing a glorious future that I am already living

I am capable of taking care of everything that comes in my way

Universe helps me abundantly

6 ways to attract Happiness NOW

1.   Forgive: It is easier said than done but it has to be done. When we forgive, we release ourselves from the past. We let go of what could be and focus on what can be. If it is very hard to forgive then think of a time when you sincerely apologized to someone, did you hope that they would forgive? Imagine forgiving yourself at that moment. If you can be easy on yourself, you can be easy on others. Happiness is more important than holding grudges.

2.    Be grateful: Grateful for what you have brings you more things to be grateful for. It is the attitude that makes you humble and receptive of generosity of this Universe. Everyday count 5 new things to be grateful for and see the difference in your daily mood. Do this the first thing in the morning and set the positive tone for the day. When things get really tough, don’t forget to be grateful for your health, family, home, love or whatever things that you take for granted such as your bed, shower, pillow, phone, bathroom, fan, comb, toothbrush, literally anything, anything will do. Be happy for small things and big things will appear.

3.    Regret nothing: No matter how bad your decision was, there is nothing you can do to change it now. Stop regretting things that you did in the past. This relates to forgiving. Forgive your past. Easiest way to stop regretting is focusing on the present moment. If you could make a fresh start, wouldn’t you? Nobody is stopping you. In fact, starting it again is only admirable. Focusing on present is no easy task but that is why we meditate. Meditate at least 5 minutes a day. You can even meditate in a  or bus, just not in the car while driving .  Here is a 5 minute meditation practice: Close your eyes, and breathe deeply. If you are not home then you may not want to breathe deeply but normal breathing can be good enough too. Breathe once and count 1, breathe second time and count 2, continue until you reach the number 10. Once you reach the number 10, cross one finger and repeat the process until your 5 fingers are crossed. There you have it, a quick meditation. You can repeat the process for 2-3 times. Once finished, gently open your eyes. It is easy and can be done anywhere.

4.    Be nice: I have heard many times that people take advantage of your niceness so you need to step up your game and be a b*tch. Oh, only if you knew that karma is a real b*tch and nothing gets unnoticed –small or big. We are all individuals and were raised in different environments so it is obvious that we will not get along with everyone. But that does not mean you need to mean to other people.

Be nice to your enemies. Some people might be jealous of you or resent you for whatever reason, you cannot feel the same way about them. Even when you know that someone do not have good intentions for you, be nice to them. That is your greatest strength. Let karma take care of them and you take control of your own life. If you believe in Law of Attraction then by being nice you will keep attracting nice people. Even if you attract mean people once in a while, practice being nice to them and you will soon open up many doors.
Be nice to strangers. When you see elders or pregnant women, offer your seat. Put a quarter in an expired meter, smile to a fellow commuter, let a hurried driver go before your, let someone go first before your turn, give a penny or two to the person who is standing before you in the checkout register, give a sincere compliment. There are many ways to give and even more ways to receive back. Feel the magic of giving something without any expectations – ah, that moment is the best of all.
Be nice to yourself. You can never have compassion for others without having compassion for yourself. Be nice to yourself. If you spill the milk, you are not a complete idiot, you just had an accident and it is fixable. If you missed the train, you were not walking or driving too slow, you just missed a train, there is nothing else about it. If you made a mistake at work, you are not the first and you won’t be the last.

5.    Be yourself, be vulnerable: It hurts to be vulnerable, but being vulnerable is being you. You are taking a risk that someone will hurt you but you are also opening up universe’s channel that people will accept you for who you are. If we don’t want to get hurt then we should never go out because where else is safest than being home, in our bed, comfortable. However, staying home does not bring anything new and you certainly cannot find the fun and happiness that other people bring to you. Yes, it can mean that they may hurt you but it’s better to get hurt in search of fun than being lonely. I promise you that when you are ready to be yourself, you will attract those who love you for who you are. Your truth is more beautiful than you can imagine.
6.    Stop judging: Unless you are judge in an actual court please do not take responsibility of such a big task. It is normal to evaluate other people but making assumptions about them creates wall that doesn’t really exist. Wearing short skirt does not make anyone a slut and a being shy does not make anyone a dumb person. People can be insecure, just like you. Give them a chance to do or be what they want and accept them for who they are. Nobody talks behind you. If they do, it only means that you are worth talking about, take no offense for that. Judging stops you from being happy because you are too busy to find reasons to be sad about something.