Taking things personally

When people talk negative about us or look down at us, it is hard not to take it personally. But what exactly are we taking personally? It is other people’s opinions and feelings. The hurtful feelings are not ours. We are taking on unnecessary burden.

When people are behaving negatively, their behavior says a lot about them and NEVER about you.

Their opinion about you or your behavior comes from their upbringings or thoughts; it has NOTHING to do with you or your behavior.

Therefore, do not take anything personally. They don’t know you the way you know yourself. Perhaps you made mistakes but you are not a mistake. Your mistakes don’t represent you. You are whole regardless of your behavior.

If we hate people who hate us, then we are reflecting on their behavior, not their true self. If we forgive those who hurt us, we are reflecting on their true self. And since we are all one source, forgiveness means being true to ourselves.

It is easier to forgive than you think. We all have said bad things about others, either to hurt them or gain approval from others. If you can forgive yourself, you can forgive those who have done the same thing.

So next time someone says something hurtful, remember to repeat, “It is not about me, it is about them. I forgive.” 🙂

 

Why Bad Things Happen to Good People?

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When I first learned about the law of attraction, I wondered how a nice person can attract bad things. I thought that a good person can never have bad thoughts.

I now realize that there are no such things as good or bad. We have created these labels for our convenience.

The law of attraction does not judge us. It only responds to the frequency of our thoughts. When we are vibrating on a frequency of being a victim, the law of attraction will bring us people who will make us feel like a victim. The law doesn’t say, “omg, Smita what are you doing, think something different” or “even though she is thinking thoughts of being a victim I will still bring her people who respect her”. The law does not label our thoughts; it simply brings them as a reality.

This is the reason bad things happen to good people. I recently met a person who does his best to serve others. He told me that all his life he served others. Unfortunately he thinks that people take advantage of his good nature without reciprocating. The law of attraction simply makes it a reality for him. If he believes that he is served by others as others serve him, his reality will reflect that.

Our most important task is to pay attention to our thinking pattern. Even better would be to think as little as possible and to stay in the present moment. If silencing your mind is a too difficult task, at least think thoughts that bring you a positive reality.

In the core of us, we are neither good nor bad. We simply are. Things don’t happen to us, we attract them.

Shake the stress

 

Stress is one of the major causes of illness in human beings. We must be able to handle stress effectively.

Stress is nothing but thoughts about uncertain future and the belief that there is nothing you can do make it certain. Unfortunately it is wrong to think that we are not in control of our future. Stress is simply our thoughts and non-existent reality. If we think positively then we can create a positive reality.

Every time we have worry about the future we can simply replace those worrisome thoughts to thoughts that make us feel calmer. E.g. “I will never be able to find a job that I love” becomes “my dream job is coming to me”. Then spend your thoughts imagining how does having a great job makes you feel rather than thinking about a crappy job.

I think there is one easy way to release the stress and that is being in the present moment. It is impossible for us to stop thinking. We can guide our thoughts into thinking the way we want our future to be. When we think about the present, we are living and thinking the same thing. We eliminate past and future and thereby free ourselves from stress from both parts.

It is not easy to stay in the present moment but it is easy to come in the present moment. Think of a time when you were in deep thinking but a doorbell or a ringtone brought you in the present moment. At that moment, you only thought of the present (the buzzing sound) but went back to future when you started wondering who it could be.

By practicing coming to present moment whenever you can, you will form a habit of staying in the present moment. My father taught me a great way to stay in the present. E.g. I would walk a whole block while repeating that I am walking. I was concentrated only on the present moment and there was no worry about the future at all.

With practice, you can start staying in the present moment. Start with small tasks as doing dishes or laundry. When you are doing dishes, pay attention to the soap and water and how it is cleaning your dishes. Observe the process with your full concentration instead of doing it mechanically. Working your way from these small tasks to important task is fairly easy. E.g. instead of saying “I am stressed out about my presentation” you will say “I am giving a presentation” there will be no further thinking and hence no stress.

By staying in the present your body will eliminate the stress that can give birth to illnesses such as heart disease, obesity and sleep disorder. Your body will not feel the pressure that it feels thinking about the future. Your brain will not have to race to think too much and you will feel relaxed.

Relaxation brings good thoughts and by Law of Attraction, you will attract good experiences.

Here are some affirmations to stay in the present moment:

This is the only moment that I can live in therefore I enjoy it completely

I am in the present moment

This is the only moment that matters

I am aware of what I am doing at this moment

I observe my surroundings at this moment

I appreciate this moment

I notice what is around me

I focus on what I am doing at this moment

I release the past and accept the future for what it was/will be

This is the only moment that I can control

I am in love with this moment because of the power it has

My stressing our future does not bring any solution therefore I would rather enjoy the present moment

My current positive thinking is bringing a glorious future that I am already living

I am capable of taking care of everything that comes in my way

Universe helps me abundantly

Do it Anway

The hardest thing to do is to begin. We often plan things in our mind but rarely take actions. We are too consumed in daily lives of what is than what can be.

Can it be because we are lazy?

No, we are not lazy. We wake up every day even when we don’t feel like it, dress ourselves and our kids, go to work or school and come back home. By no means that can be called lazy.

I believe that real reason that we do not take actions is that deep within us lies fear. This fear stops us from doing something new or unusual because it might be scary. We feel safer where we are because at least we are familiar with the feelings.

There are two types of fear. Fear of failure and fear of success.

Fear of failure: This is a learned fear. I believe that fear of failure is learned through our parents. It is hard for adults to learn swimming because adults are more fearful of unknown situations compare to children, who are always eager to try new things.

As we grow older, we observe our parents or surrounding adults talking about failure in negative way and assume that this is a legit fear. If adults surrounding us did not respond to their failure positively we learned that it is bad to fail. Failing is not bad. Never trying is bad. Never taking a risk is bad.

When we do something we are bound to make mistakes. But taking no action is the worst mistake. We are bound to miss 100% of the chances we never we take.

Fear of success: Fear of success protects us from being in limelight. It is uneasy for many people to even receive a compliment. They are afraid that by being the focus they are attracting unwanted attention from enemies (due to our evolution process- lion eats the person who is in the front not the ones in group).

It is not easy to get rid of any of the fear and you shouldn’t. As I said, fear is here to protect us, it guides us. That feeling you get when you know you need to run away from danger is fear. It is only trying to protect you. It’s not only good thing, it is an amazing thing.

Every time we encounter fear before taking an action, we need to convince ourselves that there is no danger in doing it. E.g. at first you might be afraid to swim but under a trained instructor you can convince yourself that nothing bad can happen to you, you will always be protected by your instructor. If protection is taken care by instructor, fear can rest and you can finally take the first step in a swimming pool.

No matter how scared you feel to do something, do it anyway. People who succeed feel the same fear but they take actions anyway.

Taking the first step might be harder but once you get started you know your journey will end one day. You might fail but you might as well succeed.

No matter the outcome, taking the first step is already a victory.

Failure is only an illusion, with every failure there is one less attempt to try.

Success is also an illusion. Success is not just an award in a ceremony; it is the satisfaction you feel in your heart knowing that you had enough courage to go beyond your fears. You untangled the web of fear and through it you made a quantum leap into the web of actions.

Every action has a reaction; it is only matter of time when your seed will grow the first root. Remember root is within soil, you cannot see it until first sprout comes out but you know that it is there. Have patience.

Never ever stop taking actions because every time you start something you have changed this world just a bit.

Health Affirmations

 

I am very healthy

I lovingly take care of my body

Taking care of my body is a ritual not a task

I eat just enough

I know when to stop eating

I eat healthy food and beverages only

I am blessed with a great body

I am grateful to my body for letting me experience the physical world

I dress my body appropriately

I put only nourishing lotions, oil and powders on my face and body

Healthy food tastes amazing to me

I enjoy fresh fruits and vegetables

Wherever I go, fresh fruits and vegetables are always available for me

I thank the nutrients for nourishing my body

I enjoy working out

Working out is as important as brushing my teeth and taking showers

I always have plenty of time to exercise

I communicate with my body and understand the signals it gives me

I appreciate the love my cells and love them back

I am simply grateful to have this body

I take walks

I meditate frequently

It is easy for me to stay active and eat healthy

My diet is balanced

My exercise routine is balanced

I always have energy to work out

I always have energy to cook and eat fresh meals

I surround myself with people who enjoy similar healthy lifestyle

I respect my body and eating only enough rather than stuffing my little stomach

I know that my body is always trying to do the best for me therefore I take the pledge to help it in every way I can

Thanks to my healthy body, I am spiritually connected to the Universe

I am relaxed and I enjoy life to the fullest

I get good massages

I smile many times throughout the day

 

 

 

Body is connected

Have you heard of the expression, “The Body Has a Mind of Its Own?” It’s very true.

Our bodies are connected to the Universe. We never have to take care of our bodies because our bodies take care of us. Our noses breathe for us, our hearts beat for us, our stomachs digest or store food us. If our bodies did not signal us when to go to the bathroom, we would be in big trouble. Imagine if we had to pay attention to these important details how busy we would get.  Thanks to our magnificent bodies, everything is well taken care of. Thank you beautiful bodies.

You do not have to do much to appreciate your bodies. Just keep it clean, provide it with energy from fresh vegetables, whole grains, some meat and tons of fruits. Our bodies work best on unprocessed food. Unprocessed food comes from the Universe and body can recognize and digest it easily.

Our bodies are always in the present moment. Our minds, however, transport to past and future at any time. Mind seldom stays in the present. Disconnect occurs when our minds are in the past or future for too long while our bodies remain in the present. Every cell in our bodies hears and responds to our thoughts. When we have too many fearful and angry thoughts they do everything they can to protect us. For example, if you feel fearful, your body will burn fewer calories to save energy for the uncertain future. When you are not thinking about uncertainty of future, your body will stay in the present and burn energy as needed. This is why stress can make you gain weight. Bodies are so amazing. They don’t just get anxious; they do what they can in the PRESENT moment to make you feel secure. They take actions. There is so much we can learn from them.

Staying in the present moment is the best way to keep your bodies connected to the Universe.

Meditation and yoga connects your body and mind.

Complain less and appreciate more
Eat only enough and love more than enough
Stress less and play more
Talk less and listen more

Your bodies enable you to enjoy this beautiful earthly life. Do not take it for granted. Love it back because it loves you more than anyone else can ever love you.

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The Truth

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We all want to be happy. This is a journey to experience happiness in doing and in being. First, Happiness comes from being then it comes from doing.

Real happiness stems from the truth that we are sufficient without any needs.

We are all that exist. Whatever exists is us.

Truth sets us free. Truth brings us real happiness. But happiness cannot come, it is always there. Knowing that you are magnificent is the discovery of happiness. Believing that you are an average person with no magnificence is the darkness. Why should we believe in such lies? Would you ever believe that you are a horse? Then why would you believe that you are an average person.

You cannot believe your truth you can only know your truth. You are that which you wish you could be. You are the wealth, you are the love, you are the stars, you are all there is. You are amazing. You are not a reflection of happiness, you are the happiness. You are the truth.

Then why do you choose to forget this truth? Why do you buy into the lies that you hear from others? Because you make a choice. When society gives you pressure, you make a choice to go along with them rather than standing out. You would rather mixed in than stand out. It is just so much more comfortable or so you think. Your thinking is the problem.

Thinking is tool that got us where we are in our evolutionary process. The tool that is our best friend but without the proper discipline our worst enemy. When someone tells you that are not good enough you think of it as the truth. You start believing the lie as a truth because it seems easier. It feels wrong but seems right. Right is not the truth. Truth has no right or wrong. Truth is the truth. Something is either the truth or nothing at all.

I don’t want to go into the lies that you have believed but I do want to show you the truth you are seeking. What you seek is already there. Your magnificence is the truth. You are the love. Don’t believe into the lies that anyone has told you. Know your own magnificence. You do not have to start thinking. You have to do exact opposite of thinking. You simply have to be. Being is the truth. You simply have to relax and let your truth lead you where you need to be. There is nothing new to invent but a few things to discover. Discover yourself in the light of truth. Just for a minute, know that you are all that there is. Just for a minute, say with me that “I am all that there is and that is the truth”. Your personal truth is you are a spiritual being in the human form. You are here to enjoy the ride. Nothing that has ever happened in your past can take away your truth. Your truth cannot be touched because lie doesn’t exist. Lie is the illusion. Let’s be open to our truth. Let’s be open to our magnificence.

Meditation

Why do we meditate?

Do you wonder who you are? What is your purpose in this world? Such questions can only be answered through meditation.

Meditation does not mean you ask or you pray, it means you slip into a gap between thoughts.

Pay attention to your thoughts right now. What would be your next thought? Is it coming now?

It will not come because at this very moment you are aware of your thinking -you are meditating.

Slip into the gap between your thoughts. Miracles happen in this gap. You will receive answers for the life’s toughest questions.

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